More Communication – Less Stress

We’ve all been there — replaying a conversation in our heads, feeling irritated, only to later realize we misunderstood the other person entirely.

In fact, research (and plenty of real-world experience) suggests that 80% of our work stress comes from miscommunication. It’s rarely the actual problem that drains us — it’s the unclear, assumed, or misinterpreted words around it.

One of my favorite reminders came from my sister-in-law, who said:

“It’s not what you heard. It’s what was said.”

Think about that for a second. How often do we “hear” something that wasn’t actually said? Or — my personal favorite — how often do we assume what someone meant?

And we all know what happens when we assume…
We make an ASS out of U and ME.

Miscommunication creates unnecessary tension, delays, and frustration. But there’s an easy mental habit that can help: check your filters before reacting.

Today’s Challenge:

The next time you feel frustrated with someone (and let’s be honest — it will happen), pause and ask yourself:
What did I hear vs. what was actually said?

That single question can save relationships, reduce stress, and help you respond with clarity instead of emotion.

Because better communication doesn’t just make work easier — it makes life easier.